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STRUGGLE FOR INTIMACY

10/10/2013

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By Janet Geringer Waititz, ED.D
Dedicated to adult children of alcoholics....
HIHGLY RECOMMENDED
Simple
Basic
Straightforward......

What is a HEALTHY relationship?????
#1) I can be ME.
#2) You can be YOU
#3) We can be US.
#4) I can grow.
#5) You can grow.
#6) We can grow TOGETHER.

DUHHHH
sooo simple........and yet?????

I was not raised by alcoholics BUT both my parents Fathers were alcoholics.
Basically this book is excellent for anyone raised in a dysfunctional family.
Totally dated.. which makes is sweet.

Some of my favorite parts in the book is when she goes through the MYTH's... (for example) the Myth that "If I am involved with you I will lose me."
For each Myth she says,......
TRUTH.......... (she explains what the truth is)
In the REAL WORLD................(she explains what happens in the real world)

GOTTA LOVE IT

Another chapter I LOVED was about EXPECTATIONS.......
SHE SAYS......
Healthy relationships involve EXPECTATIONS.... 
It is a Shared commitment to FULFILL them. .. 
YOU HAVE TO TELL YOUR PARTNER what your expectations are!!! 
If you tell your partner what you want and he/she does NOT fulfill them, it needs to be talked about. 
NEEDS/ Expectations need to be expressed and discussed? don't know? Ask?

There is also a great little chapter on Incest...... 
SHE SAYS the effects of incest are more detrimental than the effects of Alcoholism.....(not that comparison is a good thing) but she points it out in an attempt to make sure those of us who have been afflicted by incest GET HELP.......THANK goodness there is sooooo much "help" in soooo many different forms available.

Long Story Short........
If you struggle with INTIMACY This is a great read.


xxoo
cg

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